I think the only way to get the amperage up too high is to restrict the flow increasing the PSI but decreasing the GPM. The Delavan website lists the following specs for the Fat Boy. Of course electric motors create a lot more amperage upon starting than when they are operating so cycling can kill it. Sounds like it must be a the wrong size tip or a mismatched relay. They also say they aren't thermally protected. 12ga wire should more than cover it within 6'. It comes with 14ga leads which means they would smoke before the 12ga would melt.
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PSI
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GPM
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Amps
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10
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7.0
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11
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20
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6.81
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12
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40
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5.96
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13
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60
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4.98
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17
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80
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3.96
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21
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100
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2.55
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25
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